The Wise Why
Episode #62
Episode #062
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#Ep 62 Samantha Harman Dressing For Your Success, Your Way!
About This Episode
Samantha Harmon, a style coach who combines mindset coaching with fashion advice, is a guest on the latest episode of The Wise Why podcast with Kirsty van den Bulk. Samantha and Kirsty discuss how clothing can reflect our inner world, including our personal history, feelings, and aspirations. Samantha shares insights on how individuals can use their wardrobes to save time and make money.
The conversation addresses the scarcity of stylists who delve into the psychological aspects behind clothing choices for men. Samantha explores the deep connection between what we wear and our self-perception, revealing that clothes can manifest our fears, shame, hopes, and dreams. She challenges preconceived notions influenced by shows like “What Not To Wear” and debunks restrictive style rules perpetuated by past stylists who are now recanting their old beliefs. They also critique fast fashion’s impact on consumer behaviours and the environment, advocating for conscious consumption over constant novelty in wardrobes.
Samantha shares her insights into using personal branding through attire in professional settings from her experience as an editor navigating male-dominated spaces. The conversation highlights the importance of authenticity in dressing up for work environments without being hindered by labels or sizes across different stores.
They discuss how clothes can serve as armour or tools for personal branding within careers where visual impressions are critical, such as sales roles or public speaking engagements. The conversation also encourages listeners to discard unworn or disliked items from their closets as part of embracing one’s true style identity. They also discuss body image issues stemming from childhood experiences related to clothing, the importance of high-quality attire on productivity at work due to increased self-esteem when dressed well, and recognising fast fashion pitfalls both environmentally & psychologically.
They also discuss how sustainably using existing pieces offers long-term benefits beyond trends. The podcast closes with heartfelt stories about family support systems encouraging individuality against all odds, plus potential plans for writing a book encapsulating these vital conversations surrounding empowerment through apparel choice.
Enthusiastic responses received live suggest that it will be a must-read-in-the-making.
Episode #62 : Full Transcription
Hello and welcome to the Wise Why. We are back and this morning I am joined by the most incredible woman. She is the voice in my head when I’m having a fat day, and I have plenty of those. And when I’m looking at my wardrobe going, I can’t wear them. I can’t wear that. I hear Samantha harm’s voice come in and she will go. Just wear it. So enough about me, as usual. The wise weight is definitely not about me. I shall pass straight to Samantha. Please introduce yourself. Hello. Good.
Samantha Harman
Morning. I am very sweaty and this moment in time I’m not enjoying this weather. OK, I am a style coach, so I help predominantly. Women and all women, some men, two save time and make money using the power of their clothes.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Love it, and actually one thing I didn’t say before we came live was I get asked quite a lot by men. Funny enough, what to wear and we always think it’s a female thing, but it’s not. And you know, I’ve searched. So I am gonna request if you could do me a style guide that I could share with all your branding on it so I can actually send it. To people because it would really help me.
Samantha Harman
Yes, I would love. To I I get asked a lot. Actually I do. I am trained in men’s styling and I will if someone messages me I’ll try and help them as much as possible, but there aren’t as many stylists for men specifically, doing what I do which is blending, coaching and styling. And asking questions about why we’re wearing what we wear. So there are you? Know there are stylists who will. Work specifically with clothing, but not necessarily the reasons why we’re wearing or not wearing stuff.
Kirsty van den Bulk
And I think that’s really, really important the way that you know, I got here you speaking, it was just awesome. But the way you connect the, the mindset with what you’re wearing and I wonder if you can expand a bit more on that because we always think ohh I’ve got nothing to wear or I’m just having a fat day or and we we have this inner dialogue. But you have a way where you. Can really help us fix it.
Samantha Harman
Yeah, your wardrobe isn’t just clothes, it’s a manifestation. Action of everything that’s happened to you up into this point, how you feel about yourself, your hopes, your dreams, your fears, shame, guilt. The things that you thought you’d be by now, the things that you didn’t get to do, ways that you are holding yourself back. You’re you’re saving stuff for best, so there is no point in me coming to someone’s house or working with someone and saying ohh you’re an apple. And you should wear this and blah blah blah and then leaving them to it because that’s doesn’t actually help them because they still have all of that inner stuff going on. So the the 1st. But that I do my eyes is the inner work, because what we’re doing is we’re running a dialogue in our heads that we aren’t even necessarily aware of that comes from generations and memories and beliefs that we formed when we were so young. That we’re we’re still carrying around and we’re still dressing. To these standards and they are reflected in what we’re wearing or not wearing when actually if we didn’t have them, we’d probably dress in a completely different.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Absolutely love that because I was a dancer. I don’t talk about it very often, but I trained very hard to be a dancer and get into the West End and I struggle to this day to put a put a swimming costume on. When I put any type of swimwear anything like a leotard. I or it? It can put me in the worst. Mood possible?
Samantha Harman
Yeah, it’s because of those beliefs that were formed when you’re a kid, right? Mine. You’ve just reminded me of when we had to go swimming at school. And I’ve got a lot of hair and a big a big head, and I pretend that it’s all just the hair, right? My head’s as big as the moon. And if I didn’t have my hair, people would really see it. But I used to have to wear a swimming cap. And I would have. Like two or three. Teachers trying to squash my hair down into. Swimming cap, which reflecting back on it, is like it’s not great really from a confidence perspective, but yeah, I. Have all of. These stories as well, like when I was growing up, I was told, you know. The words that were used were you are fat and ugly. Those is the words that were used. And so I believe that and I didn’t think that style was for me. I thought it was for other people and now. I get people messaging me saying to me, you know. Ohh. You’re so confident. I wish I could wear that. I would love to work with you, but I. Need to lose weight. And that’s just not true at all. I think style should be for everyone, and sometimes people see what I do. They’ll see one post from me and they’ll assume that what I’m doing is really superficial. And I get where that comes from. Because it comes from this idea, the soul is only for a certain type of person, and that’s what we’ve seen stylists as before, right? We’ve seen them as judgmental. You know, on what not to wear. Telling people this isn’t good. Hide that. Whatever else. But what I’m doing. Is the opposite of that? Because I want people to feel as good as possible about themselves so they can do good stuff in the world.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Just brilliant and and I think that’s really I love the fact you touched touched on the what what not to wear and those horrible. And I’m gonna say it horrible TV programmes that just destroy who we are. I I have a whole rant about that type of TV because I don’t think it’s healthy for us. I don’t think it’s healthy to constantly be reminded that we’re not perfect. I mean, I have no idea what what shape I am because all I do know is I’ve stopped looking at the the numbers when I go shopping, because whichever shop I go into, I could be. Size 16 down to a size 8. And I tend to think I’m probably about a 11:50, but I don’t. Honestly. No, I don’t know what you’ve got to say on that one as well.
Samantha Harman
Yeah, we get so caught up on labels and rules and I work with a lot of women who are of the generations of growing up or watching those type of shows. And The thing is, the people who made those shows such as Trinny Woodall, Susanna, Constantine. Erica Davies, who’s now an author and writes style books. They have come out and said that what they said was wrong and they don’t believe those rules. And yet, because that’s what we’ve been influenced by, that’s what we’re still doing. And so many women that I work with, I’ll have to challenge them on beliefs they have. Like, I can’t wear red because that’s to this or I can’t wear stripes because. You shouldn’t wear stripes over a certain size, and it’s restricting. Our style, but shops, no labels. It’s because the clothes are made on a fit model, so every shop uses different model and all they do is just scale up like they’re just add a few inches per size and they’re never going to fit your individual body 100%. Perfectly, because that’s how they made their mass produced. And yet you are making that mean something about yourself.
Kirsty van den Bulk
So I know. You’ve got a real hatred for fast fashion.
Samantha Harman
Yeah. I just, yeah, there’s some first fashion brands that I just do not mess with. And first of all, over consumption is a huge problem. We currently have enough clothes on this planet to clothe the next 6 generations. We don’t need more clothes. And yet there are brands that are making 100,000 items. Like every quarter? Asos, for example, if you go on ASOS, you will see they’ve got about 7000 new items pretty much every day on there. We don’t need all this stuff. We actually just need to learn how to use it properly. And another reason that I. Me having a problem with our fashion is because of how it makes us feel. You know, if your clothes are of good quality or not, you know if your clothes have been made by someone who is actually getting what they deserve from putting together that item. And so if you are running a business or you want to be a leader. And you’re saying I wanna make 6 figures? 7 figures. You can’t be walking around in clothes from she, she, she, she. Whatever it’s called, I’ve got.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Leadership, right? But.
Samantha Harman
No time for it, yeah. Got no time for it.
Kirsty van den Bulk
So I love that because people don’t know this much about me, but in the when I was in my 30s, I used to refuse to go into certain shops because of fast fashion. I used to stand outside. And almost get ohh. I was very political and I was younger. I’ve got. I’ve mellowed. I have definitely mellowed. But you know, I was like, no, you can’t go in there. They they don’t do. They don’t treat their stuff right it is. Factory ohh IW. Yeah, I was incredibly banging the drum. So when when I first met you and I heard you talking about. This it was. Like, yeah, I I like this woman a lot. And I do mean a lot. It was like, wow. Yes, you’re talking my language. But of course, you didn’t just start in fashion, did you? You you people don’t necessarily know this. They see your posts on social media. And as you said, they. They they do the judgement thing. I think we’ve all been there, but actually you got a book. I’m gonna. I’m gonna swear you don’t business editor.
Samantha Harman
Right. Yeah, yeah, I am. I am, yeah, I started. As a journalist, well, actually, if we’re going back way back, you know, I grew up on a Council this day. I didn’t know anyone in journalism and I became a journalist and ended up. Becoming a newspaper editor and at that time, even actually it wasn’t that long ago, OK. And also this is still the case now. There are not very many women in those roles. And so I was often being mistaken for the secretary or someones assistant. And I decided that I could use. My clothes not only are. As an armour to that kind of. Stuff, but also. As a personal brand because I could see that’s where journalism and even careers in general going. You know, people buy from people. So I started to really think more about what I was wearing. I mean, I loved clothes anyway and dressing up anyway, think about what I was wearing. There other women started asking me for help. I’d meet them at events and they would say I’ve got an interview tomorrow. Can you help me or I’ve got this meeting next week. Can you help me pick out what I should wear? I absolutely loved helping them. And I loved helping them more because I am very passionate about gender equality. Women getting into these spaces, all that kind of stuff, I guess as a result from being in a very male dominated industry, which not is not just male dominated, but also very elitist. Like when I got the job as editor of the. At Oxford, Maine and Oxford Times, I would have so many people say to me or what what school did you go to? And they meant what private school did you go to? Cause this is a job for this type. Of person, right? So they were always a bit surprised when I was like ohh, I’m just going to the Council’s day. But something that happened to me. At those papers, was that this had happened to him one day and we had someone who was an archivist, an archivist. He was basically he used to work there, and now he looked after all of our files because newspapers are such a rich history of what’s happened in society. And he was in the room where we kept everything, and he took out this book. And it was. A long line of all of editors up to that point, and from when it had started and he said to me, look at all of these and he was. Like and I’ll look at you, imagine what they would say, or how great is it that you are here doing this? So I really took that away with me. And love that he said that. Yeah, but that’s why I do what I do. It’s not to me. It’s not about clothes. It’s about helping people make money. I have a client at the moment who been working with for literally two weeks and already she is making big strides in her business that she wouldn’t have made otherwise.
Kirsty van den Bulk
It’s really mechanical.
Samantha Harman
Because she’s starting to feel more confident in herself and owning the fact she’s an expert.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Yeah, big one. And it’s it’s interesting cause I’ve had to go through that change as well. You know, it’s when I worked for the corporates, I actually deliberately dressed like the secretary. I deliberately dressed very, very feminine. I was working a very male dominated environment, so my clothes were really floral. They were feminine. I deliberately power dressed in a way because of kind of reversed it so that people come to the meeting and I’d be the one making the decisions and they would talk to my boss the to, to the person next to me. So sometimes my boss, sometimes I’ve been in charge of marketing sometimes. My the the person that I’d taken to the meeting, who was the the pre sales guy and he would talk to them because they’re in the suit and I was the pretty. One I’d even. Go and make. The cup of tea deliberately and and come back in and they would spend the whole time talking to the other person. And I go. Yeah, I’m not going. To be going with you so.
Samantha Harman
Yeah. How much love that?
Kirsty van den Bulk
Had a lot of fun doing that, but of course then I. Left decided to launch a business, but the pandemic hit and then I had to kind of find my own style and it’s been really interesting going through that journey and finding it cause I need practical clothes cause a lot of the time I’m crawling on the floor, putting lights up or putting up tripods. So it’s it’s kind of like difficult to work out what to wear. And I’ve had to go through that transition and it’s been really interesting. So when I do dress up, people tend to go ohh, you’re very dressed up today and. I’m like no. I’m just not calling on the floor.
Samantha Harman
No, it’s just one on Tuesday. No, anything new. But yeah, it is. It is a struggle because if you think about it. We go from school. University, where no one has any money, so we’re just wearing, like, whatever, and then into the work environment. And there’s very much still this what we are supposed to wear at work. And it’s so outdated. A lot of workwear policy when it comes to what to what to wear to work, and I don’t even think a lot of HR professionals even know this from the conversations that I’ve had with them recently. It’s based on a book from 50 years ago. It’s a. Book by someone called John T Malloy and it was called dress for success. And he brought up a women’s edition because more women were coming into. Male dominated workspaces and in this book he says, you know, you need to stand shoulder to shoulder with men. Hence the reason that shoulder pads were such a big thing in the 80s and power dressing was a phrase that he coined and it’s 50 years later we have got more traction in these spaces. Not as much as. We need or would like, but also we’ve lived through a pandemic and so many people now are working hybrid or working from home and they don’t know what to wear to work. And because this is so outdated and no one’s having the conversation about it, it’s so confusing. Managers are really confused. I talk to managers all the time. You will say to me, oh, I’ve got this person. They keep coming dressed in XYZ. You know, people look like they’ve just crawled out of bed and when. I say to them, why do you feel that this isn’t a conversation you can have? They will say. Are you kidding? I don’t know what to wear to work. No one’s talking to me about this. I’ve not had any training. What am I supposed to say to them? So yeah, it’s something that we really need to think about, because if you’re asking your employees as well to be a face of the brand, you have to give them the confidence to be able to do.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Absolutely. Is this a book coming out?
Samantha Harman
OK, here’s my grand announcement. I think this might just get on my soapbox. I’m like this and people like when are when are you gonna write a book? So.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Yeah, seriously, go get this book up, because I would buy it and I would also be able to use it with my clients because so the challenge that’s on my clients have is they’ve got to do and we could they tend to be men. Although there are women and I’m trying desperately to remember Paul’s surname, who came on the the podcast couple weeks, months ago. She designs work where for women, so really she’s gonna try and connect with you. But I’m trying to think about. The issue that we that a lot of my clients face is they’re on site. So they’re they’re in steel toe caps. They’ve got a hard hat on and then they’ve got to move from site to. A big. Meeting and hold that meeting cause they’re in in, you know, they’re in the C-Suite. So that’s an interesting point for men and women and something that we, a lot of people struggle with. I’m not gonna ask you to answer the question now, but unless you’ve got an idea. But. It is something that is never discussed and it is a really difficult.
Samantha Harman
Right. We have to get dressed every day for work. We judge people even though we hate to think this of ourselves. We judge people within nought. .10 seconds of seeing them. And so you know, what we wear is really important, not just for other people but for ourselves, because there is something called in clothes Commission. It’s a psychological term. For the fact that we act up to or down to what we’re wearing. So if we’re wearing something that doesn’t make us feel good, we are less productive, we are less likely to hold the meeting, we are less likely to say what we need to. And that’s the problem. That’s the problem in business for employers, because if you are in a sales role, for example, and you have to go out and get a big client. And you don’t feel confident in yourself. That’s the energy you’re going to bring to the meeting, and you’re not going to get as good a deal as you could have. So it’s it’s something that we need to talk about. It’s the one thing we’re expected to do every single day for work and it’s the one thing that people will tell you is superficial, silly thing to think about. You know, we invest all this money in IT training and, you know, all this other stuff, which is all great. But if people don’t feel good about themselves, they’re not going to. Do the best.
Kirsty van den Bulk
100% and I say this when I’m doing public speaking, think about what you’re wearing, including. And it’s funny. It’s funny though. I was watching documentary with Shania Twain and she talked about how she had to learn to sing in heels, and I talked about this a lot, actually, because heels change the way you stand and the way you command is. And I love her. I love a heel. I absolutely love it, but I I’ve taught myself where to place my weight so it doesn’t affect me when I’m public speaking, but that took time and I had to learn to do it and we I was. Lucky I got. It at drama school, but those are things that people don’t think about right the way. Down to your feet, do they people don’t.
Samantha Harman
Have any training in this stuff? We are just expected to know and the problem is then that fast fashion fashion in general can capitalise on this because we’re always being sold to, especially with social media. Ohh well, you know that person’s wearing that, so maybe I should wear that. Maybe this is a thing to buy this season and because we haven’t. Learn the basics of this is your shape. This is how to make you look and feel fantastic. We are susceptible to going out and buying stuff that we do not need and that we half the time we don’t even. Like it sometimes. I’ll be with a client going through their wardrobe. And I’ll say, OK, what about this thing or this thing then? Ohh hate that. Don’t like that. Why is it in your house?
Kirsty van den Bulk
I’ve got a confession. I threw out all the clothes I don’t like. Well, actually did thread them. I took them to the charity, but I I I remember listening to one of your things. And I went through my wardrobe and everything that I. Didn’t like went out. This is this is what you done to me. And yet, yeah, if if if I wasn’t busy, I would have come to you because it it it was that thing where I was looking at my wardrobe going. And I’ve I’ve had training, so I’m very different because when you’re an actor, you are trained to dress as the part. And you spend hours learning what and and and observing, really observing, not observing the magazines. In fact, I don’t watch. I don’t read any glossy magazines at all, primarily because I find them. There’s there’s no. Sounds awful, but I find there’s no substance to them. So what we used to do one of the exercises we had to do was go out and watch people in the street. Sweat and see what they’re absolutely wearing. So I do this, and it was a really hot summer’s day and I decided to wear a summer dress and I was travelling as a stupid story, but I was travelling and this bit of the body was being shown, so I had to dive in and get a little vest to put underneath. And there’s a slit in the dress. And I was walking. Because I observe and I still observe today, and I was walking, there was like something not dressed the same way as me. Obviously going to the office as well. I had my laptop, but because I was wearing a pretty summer dress which was covered in flowers with a slit and I was going to a big, big meeting. But I was feminine. They absolutely stopped, stared at me and judged me. Just as if I was blonde and silly and it was like, wow, I’m 52. I think I can. I know I can hold my own. So you’re right about that judgement. I think that’s a really important thing to talk about. So thank you for that. We’ve got some comments. Ohh. Paula joined us. Paula joined us. Yes, Paula cannon. You two really must meet she designs. Workwear for women. She’s and she’s brilliant. So definitely reach out and Joe Joanne Barker has joined us and I. Would definitely buy. The book too.
Samantha Harman
I write in this book, haven’t I? Yeah. What I wanna do is just rant and then get it. Like transcribed.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Well, you can do that in Word.
Samantha Harman
Yeah, I think OK, fine.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Fine book. Please do. I’ll. I’ll even write the forward saying yes, go for it. Oh, a comment. Anyway. Please write a book because I think it’s really important. So we talked about the guy who worked in the archives, who told you all about. How incredible it was to be in that position. What I’m really interested about is who else has inspired you?
Samantha Harman
My it’s not really corny. I’m gonna say my parents because they when I we grew up with no money, like literally my dad. Had about four. Jobs and he also ran his own business. Not very well. So I’ve learned a lot of lessons from him. But there was one time it was Christmas. And he had to take a job as a milkman because we didn’t have any money and people left tips out. And so he came home with all of these envelopes, and there were full of coins. It’s like 1 LB here. 50P there, 20P there. And me and my sisters opened these envelopes and I never felt more rich. We were like, we’re rich, we’re rich. And it added up to probably about, I don’t know, £30 or something. But my parents always told me that I could. Do anything and they’ve got three daughters. And my dad was always actually being asked when we were kids. Is that a shame? You don’t have a son. And he’d always be like, no, I’ve got three lovely, lovely children. But they always told me there was nothing that I couldn’t do. And when you come from a background of you live on a counsellor day, you get, you get judged on it. You’re starting not at the same position as everyone else. And he and my mum always took us to places that would show us like there was a. A good way of life and that kind of stuff. So they’ve been massively influential and also my my grandparents the the same. Yeah, they’ve been getting get emotional. They’ve they’ve been very they they been very helpful. I guess what I would say, one of my novels, sorry.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Ohh sorry.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Well, it was just to let you know, because I don’t know if you know this about me. I grew up in a Council house.
Samantha Harman
There we go. See.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Yeah. Well, everything you just said, I totally and utterly. Get my parents the same so. I just. Yeah, I could hear you getting emotional. So I was like, no, no, no. I gotta. Jump in that I don’t, I don’t.
Samantha Harman
Surprise booting.
Kirsty van den Bulk
I don’t like exposing anybody because I don’t think it’s fair. This is a lovely. This is a moment where we we’re talking and it’s not about me making you cry or anything like that. So, but yes, I grew up. In Tatham Corner, which we’re really proud of. In a little Rd called Shorty Way, which shortly Crescent, which is now and I went to Shirley Way 1st and middle school and actually as I’m talking I’m dropping my accent and going into my sorry accent because that’s actually what I come from. But I has education lessons, which and I was my parents forced me to become an actor and told me I could achieve anything and I’m getting emotional now.
Samantha Harman
Stop. I don’t. Yeah. My one of my nanny’s. Actually. She’s passed away. She passed away quite a few years ago, but she is a big inspiration to me now because she was very intelligent and also very stylish. But she was. She grew up on the same mistake that I did. And she got a place in the grammar school, but she couldn’t go because the. War broke out. So she then ended up having seven children from the. Age. She she had. Her first kid at 18, her last kid when she was 40, who was my. And she was honestly like the most intelligent, like fabulous person I’ve ever met. And I just think if she was alive now, what could she have done? And so sometimes I think about that when I’m a bit. Ohh. A bit scared to do this or do that. I think you’ve. Got an opportunity that your. Nan didn’t have. So you may as well just take it.
Kirsty van den Bulk
So it’s it’s. I love the fact she brought this up because I can remember my mum saying to me, telling me and Mum’s 76 now and I remember her saying to me you don’t understand the pressure that was on me to be a secretary. And I was like, wow. And she went, I’ll never do that to you. And she didn’t. She empowered my brother and me and my sister to be whatever we could be. And I do exactly the same thing. And I take the song from the miserable, which is not the miss and Miss Saigon. And I sent it to my daughter and I I deliberately twist the words because I want it to be powerful for her, but the line is you can be what you want to be and. It’s like, yeah. And I sung it to her since she was really, really tiny because I think. It’s so easy for us to get put into a little box and I want her. I mean, she’s got a lot of things that she’s gonna overcome, so I want her to fly and just be. As busy as her mother? Ohh she. She’s amazing. You have to meet her. So we’ve had Rachel Janeway saying amazing insights. Thank you. And I look like a LinkedIn user who I don’t know the name of. Cause how streaming old works. It’s great. Listen, so that’s awesome. So this is the moment. Well, you’ve been in the hot seat. We’ve had a brilliant. I loved. I have loved this, this conversation. I’m so pleased you said yes. You get to ask me anything.
Samantha Harman
Hey, let’s go. I’m gonna ask. You OK? I’m gonna ask you a question. I ask a lot of my clients. And actually it’s a good question for people who are listening as well. They can think about. This what would you wear if you wanted to feel your absolute most fabulous self?
Kirsty van den Bulk
Say something bright pink, which is funny enough, what this is, although it looks red. So something bright pink. I have worn bright pink since I was 15. That’s hutia pink. When I was about 40, it’s a it’s a memory, it’s it’s linked to a real tree. I think it was my 15th or 16th birthday and my mum took me shopping and it was fast fashion. It was top shop at the time. We didn’t have any money. You know, you’ve gotta but you understand it. So to go up to London to go shopping in top shopping. I went. I was lucky. I got a grant. So my secondary school. I actually went to private school because I got a grant so that I could study performance. So I went to arts. Said. But I was the grant kid and so I trained with people who could wear all the fashion brands, and I remember desperately wanting the I 50 ones, but we couldn’t afford them. So I got, I think it was some other brands in which I don’t can’t even remember Wrangler or something and they were just not right. But it was the best my mum could do. And so to go up shopping. London to get this. Outfit was massive and I was in. I was in top shop and I got a matching though this is so 80s I got a matching sweatshirt top and long skirt with a spit up the back in Fuschia pink with puccia pink, massive high heels, fuchsia pink earrings. And I wore it to my party and I wore it absolutely everywhere and I wore it to death. And so future pink to me is the memory that I always wear when I want to feel Absolutely Fabulous.
Samantha Harman
That is the most wonderful story.
Kirsty van den Bulk
Ohh and not something I ever thought I would share on here, so thank you because it’s not something I’d ever actually made that connection of why I wear feature pink, but it is really that whole memory that whole day in London that mummy time of just so much cool. So Mum, if you’re listening, which I know you never do. But if you’re listening. So thank you so much for joining us. Well, joining me, I have loved this conversation. Please get that book written. Ohh, I’ll tell you what we. Haven’t done is. You have got an amazing thing coming up, so I’m gonna flip the ticker on and you get to tell everybody all about this.
Samantha Harman
Yes, I have a master class coming up on September 21st. It’s called magnetic style and it’s going to essentially does what it says on the tin show you how to be magnetic so you can align what you’re wearing with what you want. And I’ve seen this process. Work with my clients. You know they’re going out. They’re getting visible, getting their own clients, making more money, feeling really good. And I would love to share that with as many people as possible because in September, a lot of people are thinking that it’s the end of the year, you know? No, we still, we can still make this the best season. Of the year and also I’m a big I’m big on autumn. I love it. Season of Magic not right now. Obviously it’s the. Season of sweat.
Kirsty van den Bulk
But it’s gonna be it is 30° out there.
Samantha Harman
Yeah, it’s. It’s gonna just gonna be a magical end. OK, so I’d.
Kirsty van den Bulk
I think that.
Samantha Harman
Love to join?
Kirsty van den Bulk
Absolutely brilliant. Anybody who is having a looking at their wardrobe right now, thinking I’ve got nothing to wear, you can and you will. If you get in touch with Samantha because she is totally awesome.
Samantha Harman
Thank you.
care.
00:38 Samatan Harman
03:09 Dress for Your Success
05:46 You Are What You Wear
07:11 Fast Fashion is Bad Fashion
09:22 Ballsy Newspaper Editor
12:54 Reverse Power Dressing
13:54 Mum’s and Clothing
16:35 Write Your Own Style
19:02 Heels and More
21:03 Clothing Judgement
22:35 Inspired by Others
25:13 Online Boundaries
27:40 The Emotion of Clothes
31:23 Close
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